3 BIG Secrets Leaders Keep

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Looking in the mirror at the end of the day can be a painful endeavor for leaders. It’s that raw moment when they drop the “fake it till you make it” smile. They let their anxiety seep through their pores and wonder out loud just exactly how much stress, frustration, life lessons, and wrinkles they will physically endure before they hit their target numbers or shake hands with their next investor.
It’s that raw moment when leaders – and this may include you – come face to face with their secrets. These are the secrets you’d prefer no one else discover. And here, you may feel isolated, but you’re definitely not alone. 
The reason is that everyone keeps secrets, and leaders are no exception. In fact, there are three specific secrets leaders share that prevent them from achieving greater success, faster: imposter syndrome, self-criticism fixation, and comparison condition. When not addressed, these afflictions truncate success. When they are overcome, however, they unleash potential and help leaders meet and often exceed their goals.

Imposter syndrome occurs when leaders experience feelings of inadequacy and chronic self-doubt that persist even when a closer look indicates that the opposite is true.
Leaders often have the internal mantra, “I do not belong here. I’m not worthy of being taken seriously, and everyone will soon discover that I’m a fraud.” Unfortunately, many successful, smart, and talented leaders believe they are neither good enough nor have enough to play in the coveted sandbox of “innovator and game changer.” These leaders end up behaving poorly in an attempt to cover up their fears.
What’s more, those that fear being “caught” may avoid taking risks that could reveal their perceived inadequacies, or they’ll settle for less, not believing they deserve better than mediocre results, mediocre talent, or average opportunities. Those fears undermine their success by manifesting real-life mistakes and self-induced failures.
When leaders replace their feelings of inadequacy and paranoia about being discovered a “fraud” with a healthier, more realistic assessment of their strengths and contributions, they build self-confidence. When they focus less on their skill gaps and more on how best to leverage their gifts and talents, they create new value.
How might your own self-doubts be inhibiting your ability to lead?
A self-criticism fixation occurs when leaders are so hung up on their past transgressions that they can’t believe in their future excellence. Leaders are notoriously hard on themselves for early mistakes and failures. They often allow their perceived regrettable moments to cripple their potential or truncate their ability to successfully execute their next idea. These hang-ups influence whom they hire and fire, how and when they make decisions, and which relationships and partnerships they prioritize. They define themselves by mistakes instead of assessing the knowledge they have gained from past missteps and identifying how they turned that knowledge into wisdom to avoid subsequent, similar mistakes.
Letting go of resentments and grudges against ourselves is perhaps more difficult than letting go of others’ trespasses against us. Yet, it&r